Thursday, June 26, 2014
My ah mah is an awesome woman despite having a ill fate in marriage. She has ten kids (1 passed away when young). All 9 kids are very filial to her. I looked up to her teaching when it comes to guiding my own kid in life. Apart from filial piety, 8 of them earn their own keep to maintain their family while my youngest aunt marries a good man who are willing to provide for her. We are not super wealthy but most of us are very happy and at peace. Today my aunt said that my ah mah said "When your kids bring you out to eat, don't criticize and must say that the food is very good". A lot of golden words behind this simple action. When your kid bring you out to eat, it means: - he/she is willing to spend time, effort and money on you - he/she must be doing okay in life, not trying to make ends meet that kind. if he/she is struggling to make ends meet, means he/she is still willing to spend time, effort and money on you. When you said the food is good: - your kid feel happy that you like what they give you. they will feel more confident in their choice. - everyone is happy for different reasons. that's fine, you don't have to spend time investigating and voice out explicitly what makes you/he/she happy - there are more opportunities in the future that they will bring you along. So I would love to wait for a chance for my kid to bring me out. And definitely still continue to bring my parents out more often (though they always criticize on my choice :S)
Sunday, June 15, 2014
Today is Father's Day and in honour of your day for the 2nd year being a father of two, we got mama to use her only energy to buy you a present! And we hope you like it.
Thank you for your patience in us. Both of us. And loving mama. Pls don't say she lazy because she is trying very hard to make me which makes her really tired.
Arielle (14.5 months) and *no 2* (14 weeks in making)
Friday, May 16, 2014
My boss is such a blessed guy!
The whole dept is helping to share the link which his two daughters joining coloring contests and garnering support. He is such a nice guy and I know we all clicking like not because he is our boss but because we love him and his family!
So pls share this too if you like it!
Rachel and Becky joined a coloring contest for Mother's day. Feel free to click on the links below and like picture !
Contest end on Monday!!
Sunday, May 4, 2014
Wooh I checked. And my posts are now monthly instead of daily. My daily affairs are now in Dayre. Heh.
Wonder if anyone still read this space. I bet my hub does *wave!!*
Nothing much in my life now. Just waiting. Again.
Oh I have another niece since my last update. Lil Alva girl yo!
But I am quite glad to do so because everytime I went, I kinda reaffirm that I won't need a confinement lady for no 2!!!
Like the week before, she just kept taking the baby away from me. I know it's her responsibility but since I am jaga-Ing the baby, I think I can handle, she can go do other things!
Then today I was carrying Alva like that.
This is the time I missed my baby sister because she will totally know how I feel and I can totally bitch with her abt this. Now I feel quite lonely without her.
Okay that's all I wanna rant haha. Now looking ard for confinement food to offload my mum abit for her cooking!! Would love to have her cooked but it will take a toil on her physically and mentally (to think of food to cook for me!).
And we are getting a helper *throw confetti* don't know if we can take it though!! But I kinda look forward to a cleaner house!! I even feel like renovating abit and move over to a bigger room. But I really like my current room. It's so cosy and sentimental.
Monday, April 7, 2014
My colleague was sharing with me about her cousin who just discovered a tumor below her brain and need to go through a major ops. The ops will damage her facial tissues and veins, leaving her face half paralyses. This is her 2nd op within 10 years. To add to the situation, her mum is currently a cancer patient - bone and lung. Her dad had passed away but she had just re-married to a German guy.
What a heart breaking true story early in the morning.
I remembered that time when the doctor informed us that my sis's left hand might be amputated. So I kept asking the doctor is there a possibility to keep her hand or what can we do after the surgery? Can we install a fake hand or what? But the surgeon roared at us and said "we are trying to keep her life here." I was so upset for my sis that I cried out. Guys don't get it. Beauty is so important to woman! The stares and finger pointing at a woman's flaws surely and easily land one into depression, no matter how strong the woman is.
The next thing I remembered was how unfortunate my sis was. We fell into the unlucky minority where the statistic showed remote probability of having the virus spread and grow after the surgery. It landed us into agony, sadness, frustration and anger.
We have tons of questions that no one can answer. Where is miracle? What is this crap about god (no matter which religion) bestow kindness to whoever do good? Why should we trust the unknown power when all we were given is nothing but false hopes over and over again?
Well, now I am okay. No more disgruntlement over anything. Peaceful. Maybe that's her life, to bring us joy in the short time she had with us.
Yet can't help but feel pretty affected when we hear stories like that.
Keep the hopes high, no matter what you do.
Sunday, March 23, 2014
My girl turned big one two days ago!
It's been a journey, long and short.
I read through some mums blog who wrote about breastfeeding and I kinda regret not blogging more.
I have absolutely no idea how I went through the breastfeeding period! I only remembered I was very very sleep deprived. Until I went crazy at around week 9 and I asked my hubby and mum to take away the baby. Nah, I was not really turning mentally ill and abusive. It's just... Overwhelming. Because I tried to do more and do it by myself. It's my baby afterall. I ended up not well rested and a very lousy body in the end.
I was and is still very blessed though!! I hardly need to do household chores or cook. I even can ask my mum or hub to buy food for me. I just wonder why I am so so tired everyday. Need to buck up.
Anyway, long story cut short, it's been a journey. But the journey had not ended. I am not sure if I am ready for no 2 although there are plans for it. But one thing for sure - we love you little arielle!
Sunday, March 16, 2014
Shit u blogger app! I finished typing and it hang! Wtf
Just done with Arielle's first birthday party! We held it on the Sunday before the actual day.
It was great!
All our vendors are awesome and set up everything before 12pm which kinda shocked us a little as we thought it is too early.
But it turned out to be great move!
People started coming at 12pm and can start to eat.
Grabbed arielle to go back shower by 1130.
My awesome hubby set up everything including balloons.
The little corner we set up was great!
We initially almost engaged a lady to help us do up the place and prepare cake and some small snacks. But because we had some constraints, we ended up trying to do up ourselves. It's a little more tiring but I think the results is great, better than what I imagined it to be. I can't even thought how I can do it better.
Perhaps an external vendor might make it really pretty but what we came out with is really good enough for me. It's like maybe we can afford and pay for international buffet but we are really happy with just ala carte dishes.
We found a cloth with sequins like fish scale and it's pink! Perfect. The size was awkward but we just made do with what we had.
Then just placed everything on the table
And what is more apt than putting her album showing the differences between her current and when she was less than a year?
The push cake pops were also a big hit among kids. Great tool to interact with the kids!
Cake cutting was a lil awkward. My hub threw away the box with the candle and knife. So he left to get a knife. So the crowd started singing the chinese birthday song. But we actually practiced with English one. So left me with the blur blur girl.
Need to do a ritual for her to step on the kueh also. Failed terribly.
Thanks for all the love for this little girl!
Balloons from Kidz Party Store
Cake from A Little Cake Shoppe
Push Cake Pops Singapore
PS I love you photography
decorations from spotlight and various party supplies store from bugis
toilets from Porta Plumber, best in town!